Comment by Christina

April 26, 2007 @ 9:02 pm

I don’t think there’s anything you can do other than talk to him when he needs someone to talk to. I’m sure the charges will be dropped once his friend confesses (hopefully he does).

Comment by Rose

April 26, 2007 @ 9:57 pm

Well, I don’t think you’re going to get in much trouble for that anyway - maybe a fine or something. I wouldn’t get too worried.

Comment by Ashley

April 26, 2007 @ 9:58 pm

Where we live they crack down incredibly hard on any kind of drug/DUI charge. They go for full punishment, always.

Comment by sydney

April 27, 2007 @ 3:57 pm

oh gosh… i’m no good when it comes to advice. but, i’d say that maybe all he needs is someone to be there for him and try to help him through this.

Comment by Camia

April 28, 2007 @ 1:49 am

I’d feel as helpless as you, had i been in your situation. In fact, I do actually feel helpless, seeing as i cant think of any advice to give you. I’m really sorry this had to happen to your friend, especially since he didnt do anything! ZOMG. Fucking shit-heads, do they ahve any evidence that HE was using? Or is it a law that he’s just charged automatically when his passenger has weed?

Comment by Sarah

April 28, 2007 @ 9:15 pm

I think the only thing you can do is be supportive and let you know that you care. Considering you can’t really bust him out or something, it’s important to just be there.

PS: sorry for the late Despair comment. I’ve been bed-ridden :(

Comment by LadyUT

April 29, 2007 @ 1:31 pm

I don’t think theres any advice to give him other then stay strong.A true friend will let people know it is his and not let his friend get charged for what he has.You can talk to him about that.Ya know?Thats a real messed up situations.Just keep him in your good wishes and maybe..he’ll be ok.Be supportive,If you pray..pray for him.Thats the only thing anyone could do right about now.

Comment by Kay

April 29, 2007 @ 2:32 pm

Hi! I Know what you are going through too because my friend got pulled over with someone (he wasn’t driving) but the cop made him get out and take everything out of his pocket and he had a pill that he wasn’t suppose to have. Well anyhow he called me up telling me about it and he had to fill out a statement and everything and he was scared he was gonna go to jail and if he did it would be for six months to a year but luckily the charges got dropped. I hope that the other guy confesses because that would be kinda bad if he ruins everything your friend worked so hard for. But I know how you feel because I have been there. My friend was worried because he he has a little seven month old son but like I said it got dropped and I was happy. I wish the best for your friend.

Comment by Christina

April 30, 2007 @ 1:33 pm

Oooh, new layout? It’s gorgeous.

Comment by Stepherz

April 30, 2007 @ 5:57 pm

That’s hard, definitly hard. There’s nothing you really can do. Except listen if he needs it, and hope.

Comment by Irene

May 1, 2007 @ 4:51 am

WOW - I empathize with what you’re feeling right now, Ash. I had a friend, actually, he was one of my very best friends, who had a history of drug abuse before we met. He’d moved away from the people who were a bad influence, and cleaned himself up. A few years into our friendship, he told me that he’d started using cocaine again. Worse still, he and a friend were arrested and charged with both possession and intent to sell. My friend was ordered to rehab, and not prison, thank goodness. He knew my stance on drugs, namely that I would not be friends with anyone who used. However, he was a special case and I knew that he’d made a mistake, one he was not proud of, and that once he was clean, he would stay that way. He was afraid that I would stop caring for him, and no longer want to be his friend. It broke my heart that he was so obviously afraid we’d stop being friends. I told him that I would remain his friend, and that I would help him through his time in rehab, but that if he went back to using, I wouldn’t be able to stay in contact with him.

I realize I’ve kind of rambled here, and I’m sorry. *lol* All I can tell you, is that being a friend to him is the best thing you can do for him. There isn’t one thing you can do to affect the outcome of his hearing. Be his friend, and he’ll be incredibly thankful that you stood by him. Trust me, if he’s worth keeping as your friend, and I assume he is otherwise you wouldn’t be so worried, you’ll do wonders for him by just standing by him.

I wish him lots of luck. Tell him that next time, he shouldn’t make such a stupid mistake. It could have been much much worse. ♥

Comment by Amanda

May 1, 2007 @ 10:47 am

My heart goes out to you. A friend of mine was in a situation similar to that. The only way the one “got out” was from the friend’s pleading: “You’re my friend! Just tell them I had nothing to do with it…”

I guess it took a lot of work, but she was let go; and the friendship between everyone changed a little bit, but from what I’ve seen, it was for the better.

Comment by Amber

May 1, 2007 @ 3:15 pm

Make sure he knows you are there for him; there’s nothing you can really do but offer your friendship and support. I feel for you. :(

Comment by Kimberly

May 1, 2007 @ 10:10 pm

I’m not sure there’s anything that you can do…just be sure to be there for him if and when he needs you…I guess that’s the only thing right now. I hope everything works out for the best.

Comment by Kelly

May 2, 2007 @ 5:20 pm

I hate when i have a friend that I can’t help. I have a few people who got into the same mess as your friend. But they pick and choose who they hang out with and what they do with that person. There could have been more to his arrested htat he lead on for you to believe.

Comment by Lexie

May 2, 2007 @ 11:59 pm

Perhaps there’s nothing else you can do except be supportive. I guess th best you can do is be there for him.

Comment by Anesthesia

May 3, 2007 @ 8:40 pm

Well, that is definitely a tough situation. I don’t have any great, awe-inspiring advice though.. I usually try to keep myself separate from people that I know use drugs, of any kind.

The only thing I can think is that if your friend was going to put himself in the position to be friends with someone who does drugs, he had to expect that somewhere along the way someone would assume that he also did his share. Hopefully knowing this, he continued his friendship with the other guy because he knew he could trust him to ‘fess up in a case such as this.

Hopefully everything will go well for your friend.. AND his friend. *hugs* You’ll have to keep us updated.