Bad Parenting is to Blame

Sunday, January 20, 2008

Filed under: Rambles at 1:49 pm

So I was over Mike’s house last night and a special came on after the news, concerning the “innocence of children today”. I only watched a portion of it because I ended up getting myself so fired up and angry that I couldn’t watch it anymore. But to get to the gist of it, they’re blaming, get this one guys, VIDEO GAMES and lack of nurture at home.

I am so FUCKING tired of people looking to blame the ignorance of children on something rather then SOMEONE. It’s not video games fault, it’s not lack of nurture, it’s the fucking parents fault. I’ve played violent video games since I was a child, I was 9 when the first Resident Evil game was released and my brother was 5. But do we go out and kill people? No. And you know why, because our parents taught us right from wrong. They taught us to distinguish the difference between video games and reality. No only that, my brother and I were disciplined when we were children. On a regular basis I was spanked with a leather belt. And you know something, yes it hurt. But you know something else, I knew I had done something really bad when my Dad came out of that bedroom snapping that belt in his hands. And you know something else, I was terrified of my parents. I’m still afraid of my mother to a degree. But I also RESPECTED them and others. And I knew they loved me because they took the time to teach me right from wrong. That’s the problem with parents today, everyone has made such a big shit about beating your children that people are afraid to discipline them. What they fail to realize is that there is a difference between child abuse and discipline. Punching your kid is child abuse, spanking them (sometimes with a paddle or a belt) is not abuse. There are no lasting marks. No psychological damage, just a knowledge that after it happened that you had done something wrong and were in trouble for it.

That’s what’s wrong with society today, we’ve got a bunch of little asshole adolescents running around doing whatever they damn well please because their parents couldn’t take the time to actually discipline their kids. Time outs do not work, yelling does not work. You actually have to hit your kids to get them to listen to you as they get older. Because kids get ballsy and when you don’t show them who is boss, they’ll walk all over you and think they can walk all over everyone else.

Of course, for most children it’s too late. They can’t be saved. The parents have ruined them. And you know something else, I don’t think I want to live in this country when they start to run it. They’re going to fuck it up even more then it already is. Of course, parents could take the time to look at their parenting skills and see where they are going wrong instead of trying to lay the blame elsewhere.

And people wonder why most countries hate the Americans. Look at your asshole children and how you’ve taught them to act and treat people, that’s why.

8 Comments »

Comment by Christina

January 21, 2008 @ 2:57 pm

Although I disagree with you on what’s child abuse and what’s not (I was abused by my father), I totally see what you mean. If parents took the time to teach their children right from wrong, they wouldn’t shoot up schools. And instead of taking the blame themselves, parents will blame video games and MySpace for what they did — or rather, didn’t do — for their children. The future generation is doomed. :/

Comment by (Olivia)

January 21, 2008 @ 5:18 pm

I doubt the reason most countries hate America is “the way our children behave”, lol. There are many reasons for that blind hate. & many of fingers they point at us can be pointed right back at themselves.

I definitely think parents need to PARENT their children, and most aren’t. They don’t realize that parenting is more than food and shelter. Children end up learning, things their parents SHOULD teach, from the media, or other influences.

Comment by Ashley

January 21, 2008 @ 9:25 pm

I was spanked as a child also, and I have the same feelings about it. My brother had a lot of behavior problems growing up and whenever my father (his step dad) would stop punishing him with spankings when my mom would complain, he would go back to being a brat. As soon as my father would start doing the punishment routine, he was practically an angel. Seriously, I have seen the difference an old fashioned slap on the ass can make. I’m not sure if I will spank my kids when I have them, I guess that’s something I’ll discuss with my future husband, but I know I’m not against it. Animals in the wild smack or bite their children to get them to behave…

Remember when Columbine happened and people were using video games and violent lyrics as a scapegoat? What a joke. People were killing and raping and abusing eachother hundreds and even thousands of years before Grand Theft Auto or Marilyn Manson even existed. I’m so sick of people blaming popular culture for parents’ mistakes.

Comment by Baohan

January 22, 2008 @ 3:34 am

My dad did the samething, spank. And that, wake me up. If you continue on loving them, not blaming them and also, never ever tell the kid that they’re wrong, that’s when you’re wrong. It’s so confusing isn’t it?

Also, blame the parent because they’re letting their kids buy those stuff. No seriously, Marilyn Manson’s CDs are more expensive than the others.

Comment by kandyce

January 22, 2008 @ 9:31 am

wow i must say this is the best layout ive seen a in while. nice job!

Comment by Brandi

January 23, 2008 @ 11:52 am

I completely and utterly agree with you. The media does have an impact on a wide variety of our society’s culture, however, to go as far as blaming video games on a child’s behavior is absurd (however typical). As you mentioned, it is the PARENT that regulates the child’s behavior and responsible for their punishments. Like you, my brother was playing violent video games at a tender age, whilst I was watching rated R movies. We grew up VERY well-mannered, well-behaved, and respectful.

The problem these days IS in itself the punishment parents enforce on their children. Instead of spanking, they get a slap on the hand. Why? Because Social Services and other programs are determined to eliminate physical punishments altogether. Don’t get me wrong, slapping a child across the face is actual abuse and I DO NOT condom it. However, there is a fine line between physical abuse and physical punishment. Spanking is physical PUNISHMENT, no abuse! But, according to the legal system, it is widely accepted as physical abuse.

My grandfather spanked my cousin for once trashing the plants and flowers in the garden, so he gave him a spanking. A few hours later, the police was at his front door, alongside a Child Social Services agent. Thankfully no charges were pressed, but it could’ve happened to anyone.

Comment by Brandi

January 23, 2008 @ 11:55 am

*condone it. Not condom… wow my mind is in the gutter today.

Comment by Dimitris P.

April 3, 2008 @ 12:27 pm

He looks indeed pissed off but he has a point. Children link experience with feelings, so when they try to override their limits they back off eventually by instict to avoid spanking. That’s how they learn. It does not make them a horrible person with a disturbed personality.

Abuse is when you hit them, not to teach them right or wrong but to release your own emotions on the child. A parent should not do that. You want proof? Check out the youths of today, they are way out of control.

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