Comment by Liza

August 22, 2009 @ 9:27 am

I can completely relate to this. I myself am 22 right now and sometimes feel like direction is lacking even though many say things are ‘going forward’. It doesn’t matter what others say, but if we see that we really aren’t moving their words make no difference. That’s probably one of the reasons I don’t like to talk to many of my old high school friends; everyone’s already graduated college, married, has kids, a great job, basically the perfect life it seems. I’m only just getting started so there’s always feelings of inadequacy and jealousy sprouting up when I know I should be happy for them.

But it all gets better, it really does. We just have to question ourselves - what do we NEED? We don’t all ‘grow up’ at the same time so we’re bound to have different walks, but if at least you can get one ‘need’ out of the way the rest will seem much more clear. I hope you do though, everyone deserves happiness. : )

Comment by Stepherz

August 25, 2009 @ 2:19 am

I’m sorry you’re feeling so bad. :( Even though you aren’t where you want to be now, you are still fairly young. You still have quite a bit of time. I understand what you mean… I wanted to be married by 25 too with kids, but unfortunately things haven’t worked out that way. There’s still so much more time though…

Comment by Amy

August 26, 2009 @ 6:18 pm

I know exactly how you feel. Some people I graduated with have been with their husbands for less time than I’ve been with my boyfriend.. and I can’t help but wonder how they make it if I can’t. Good luck, though. Things will get better.

Comment by Jessica

August 27, 2009 @ 5:58 pm

I am so sorry to hear that you are feeling bad, and I hope that you start to feel better about everything. I can definitely empathize with how you feel…my 10 year class reunion is on Sept 5th and I feel like such a failure. But I am still alive, and I still have my dreams. Good luck with everything! :)

Comment by Shannon

September 22, 2009 @ 11:27 am

Don’t worry, I think that you will find your way soon. Never give up, though, just keep trying. Believe me, you want to wait to have kids and all of that good stuff, you can really enjoy life while you’re rolling solo. 23 is not a bad age, you still have many fruitful years ahead of you.

Comment by Miss Loulabelle

November 18, 2009 @ 9:21 am

I understand how you feel. For me though it was a lil different im 22, fast approaching 23 with a child i didn’t think Id be having yet and I have no direction in my life. Although I love my bf dearly, love doesn’t put food on the table. Im not a person who knew that from the age of 2 id want to be a vet or a doctor.

I guess with my daughter on the way its forced me to look into home courses and such, look upon my talents and find a job that doesn’t have a roof over my head. Things will happen for you though, dont give up hope! x

Comment by Angie

January 5, 2010 @ 5:58 pm

Your artwork in your ‘folio is amazing. Is that what you like to do? Because it is freaking awesome. Its so hard to figure things out and this is going to sound cliche but you just have to believe that things will get better and keep going. In the meantime you have to figure out how to make yourself happy. You are in the best years of your life with the even better years ahead of you.

Comment by Annika

January 18, 2010 @ 2:03 pm

You don’t need to rush things.

I used to feel like this until I realized that most of these girls’ marriages are going to end in divorce, and a lot of them haven’t prepared themselves through studies.

I’m 21 and just now going back to college after a few life issues. But am I upset that other people have already graduated, or gotten married, or had kids? I used to be. But then I thought “I’m going to enjoy this for a while more. Because then I don’t get to in the future”.

Well, here’s hoping you’re okay. It’s been a few months since you posted this entry.

Comment by Sean

January 21, 2010 @ 2:49 am

There’s a couple things I could suggest, the first being do something different that you normally wouldn’t do everyday, take a walk, read a story, take a different way to work.

The next thing is a bit more out there. I took this from a self help blog I visit:

1. Take out a blank sheet of paper or open up a word processor where you can type (I prefer the latter because it’s faster).

2. Write at the top, “What is my true purpose in life?”

3. Write an answer (any answer) that pops into your head. It doesn’t have to be a complete sentence. A short phrase is fine.

4. Repeat step 3 until you write the answer that makes you cry. This is your purpose.

Comment by Jenny

February 11, 2010 @ 11:56 am

I know how you feel and I hope things get better for you :D